There is a never ending try towards being the best and I leave it all to my friends and the people on facebook because they are always chasing after their #LifeGoals and #Blessed feels.
As a first, Today, we learn how to be #Chill and how we can #LiveToBe
- Be a MESS in this world full of in control people and those who tries so hard to “fit the mold”
Being accomplished and perfect is so normal (and pretentious) nowadays. Surprise people by being a mess, not figured out and confused. It may look (and sound) devastating, but no matter how wasted your life may seem, people will be inspired by how you are managing to hold up. We all just wanna be a mess sometimes, but don’t be a real mess though, recover in every blow, stand up after every fall. Just dont think so much about being in control and do not overthink any situations. It’s okay to be not okay sometimes and being a mess, as long as you clean up after is actually okay.
- Have feelings. Feel your feelings and be honest about it, even when others can’t and wont.
Times are changing, and everyday we keep encouraging ourselves to be brave and strong, independent, rational, and it often leads us to being numb, insensitive, heartless. Yeah, we get hurt when we become vulnerable and open, but we will still get hurt even if we are not. In this world of rational and instant emotions, it is best to still have feelings and to feel your feelings. It is crying when you are sad, or overjoyed. It is laughing at the silliest jokes and sympathizing over a loss. Feelings make us human and its one way to connect. Be honest to yourself, be honest to your feelings. Live to be a person, not a robot.
- Make mistakes in this unforgiving world of perfection and superficial success
Like come on? People WILL make mistakes, real talk. Living is about being able to do what you want to do, failing, making mistakes, learning from it, and doing or not doing it again. It had always been complicated and there is never an easy way to be living one’s life.
Fact: you will disappoint people, hurt and frustrate them, and vice versa. Make your best mistake (just don’t get yourself killed.)
- Keep your thoughts and emotions to yourself, and only to the people you care about.
The thing with this fast-paced world is that we tend to say our emotions on social media too often and too much. You will look like a bipolar or psychologically ill; bursting in anger now and then suddenly being overjoyed in a matter of 5 minutes. We often express our temporary feelings and nobody really (actually) cares except those people in our intimate circle (family and close friends). Out of the hundreds of people you are friends with on facebook and thousands of followers on twitter, only a handful are really close to you and eventually give a damn about you and your feelings. Others just love to pry (because they have no better things to do) and are just waiting for you to just break down, and that is so not cool.
- Do not be afraid to miss out on things, like 90% of it doesnt really matter
FOMO: Fear Of Missing Out. It’s when you look at other people’s snapchat or instagram post or facebook update and they seem to be having so much fun and you are not. Social media has made FOMO so much intense that friendships end, and envy and bitterness is maximized.
Remember: YOU ARE NOT MISSING OUT ON LIFE. You are where you are supposed to be, you are doing what you’re supposed to be doing, and you are with people you are supposed to be with.
- Meet people, fall in love, get hurt, be wiser. Repeat.
Meet people and fall in love regardless of how many heartbreaks you’ve been through and will be going through. There is an incomparable joy to that of falling in love; whether it’s unrequited or it’s a love lost in the end. The best people will always be those who always loves, always gets hurt and always becomes wiser in the end. Let the experience, all the good and bad, teach you a thing or two about accepting the things as they are, letting go of the things that doesn’t matter, and moving on and moving forward.
- Sleep. Read a book. Drink tea. Take your time.
Live to be chill, don’t be too hot. Always take time to do small things because time is all we really got and it is the only thing we have for free. In this world of instant noodles, instant replies and instant everything, taking your time on doing some small things like stopping by to watch the sunset, talking to a friend you haven’t seen for 5 years, enjoying a good wine or eating out a fancy steak dinner all by yourself. You need a time off from the entire pretense and trying.
When was the last time you cried reading a book? Or slept in the arms of someone? Small things count.
- Travel alone (and far)
Just because it’s liberating. *drops mic
- Write a journal, make a blog, do not care if people will like, comment, or share. Just pour your heart out on something.
Not everyone can be a writer, or a blogger, but everyone can express their feelings through art, literature, and/or music. Make art. Keep a journal of your activities, make a youtube page of your performance or create an online portfolio of your crafts. It’s good for you and your mind. It’s basically free on the internet, and most importantly, it’s easy to share (if you want to), and it’s the most efficient way of inspiring other enthusiasts.
The goal is to express yourself by any means that is at your utmost convenience. And did I mention it’s also healthy for the mind and spirit?
- (and most importantly) let others be
Live to be, and let others be. STOP shoving your thoughts, opinions and unsolicited advises to other people’s throats, that is so uncool man. Surely we have our own opinions, morals, truths and reality, and that does not make us better than anybody.
To each his own and we can only do so much for others; like listening, giving them our 2 cents and just genuinely care for them. Do not overstep into others personal space, their perspectives, and their morals. We have different journeys and we live at different pages of our lives, do not judge too quickly.
Be yourself, be what you want to be, just not at the expense of others. Succeed in your own little big way, achieve your own personal goals.
Do not follow any list on how to live, or how to be. Just live to be.
that’s a friendly reminder (with great love) from my 27 year old me to my present me